Ellen Miley Perry, family relationship expert, smiling in a warmly lit home setting.

Welcome to your family field guide. 

Family relationships are tricky.
Navigating them doesn’t have to be.

Ellen Miley Perry has spent over 35 years working with families and studying how they work. She teaches simple, practical strategies to heal yourself, build healthy family connections, and cultivate a legacy of joy.

Want to get right to work? Start here with this free exercise.

How do you create a flourishing family?

CONNECT

Connection is the bedrock upon which all other family practices are rooted.

PITCH A BIG TENT

Create an accepting family culture where difference is celebrated.

BE A GREAT PARENT

The secret to a thriving, connected family is focused, intentional parenting.

BECOME EMOTIONALLY FLUENT

Get skilled in feeling and expressing a full range of authentic emotions.

CULTIVATE JOY

For flourishing families, joy ultimately becomes their true legacy.

Read the Books

A Wealth of Possibilities

A spirited and practical guide that provides wealthy families with the tools to flourish well beyond their financial means.

COMING SOON

A Field Guide for Tricky Families

Ellen brings us a refreshed, thought-provoking lens on navigating family and human connection amidst our current reality.

LISTEN NOW: Four Profound Questions for Families

In this episode of the Wealth of Wisdom podcast, Keith Whitaker interviews Ellen on on the four profound questions families should ask themselves for a pathway to deep connection, emotional intimacy, and a greater familial well-being. Try the exercise yourself here.

  • "You are more emotionally hinged to your parents and siblings than you will ever be to another person in your life, even your own spouse and children."

    - Ellen Miley Perry

  • "Connection is a paradox: basic and life-affirming and also convoluted by emotional intimacy."

    — Ellen Miley Perry

  • "The compassion you teach your children should be overt and obvious."

    - Ellen Miley Perry

  • "The process of connection is a life-long devotion. It is the bedrock upon which all other practices are rooted and without which your family will not flourish. It is the beginning and the end, the simplest and the most profound. Within meaningful and sustainable connection lies all possibility."

    - Ellen Miley Perry

  • "Know the difference between values and preferences. You can try to teach your children values, but you can't impose your preferences on them."

    - Ellen Miley Perry

  • "Seek to know the true calling of every member of the family and find ways to celebrate those gifts."

    - Ellen Miley Perry

  • "When we focus so intently on what needs to be done that we ignore what needs to be done that we ignore what needs to be felt, we're trading love for improvement."

    - Ellen Miley Perry

  • "Joy is, perhaps, the place at which flourishing families ultimately arrive and take up residence. It is the real treasure that all their hard work, devotion, and intentionality produces. It is not a frivolous distraction but the deepest of dreams. It is the bounty that sustains them and becomes their true legacy."

    - Ellen Miley Perry